Another open letter.

Dear family of my late ex-husband:

I don't even know where to start this one. I really don't.

You have truly stooped to a new low - one that I didn't even think was possible to reach.

On February 5, Mary called me to inform me that a trust fund was being set up for Daniel and E. I gave Mary all of the information that she requested - Daniel's date of birth, his social security number, and anything else that she asked. She assured me that day that as soon as everything was completed, a copy of the paperwork would be mailed to me.

Big surprise - haven't gotten it yet.

Why do I need it? I need it to prove that I do not have access to any money that may or may not be in the trust. Why do I have to do that? It is required for income verification purposes for several programs - including preschool - for which Daniel is eligible. I was told that the trust exists, so I disclosed that on the applications. However, since I can't prove that I don't have access to it, all of the opportunities for Daniel are being pulled out from under his feet.

I called the bank - they refused to even speak to me, even though my minor child's name is on the account. So I had my attorney call, and they refused to speak to him as well.

So, because of your petty, selfish, vindictive, and controlling ways, Daniel most likely will not be attending preschool in the fall. It's a shame too, since he would benefit from it both academically and socially. And he'll lose his medical, dental, and vision insurance (along with the rest of my kids, who you have always *claimed* to love so very much). There were some other programs that I was looking into for him - but guess what? With my inability to prove that I can't access the alleged trust, he can't get into those either.

As for the birthday card that he received yesterday....I have several issues with that too.

First off, I divorced Jeff. I took my maiden name back - which was indicated by the return address on the previous letter that I sent to you. Show me a little bit of respect in that area, please. Your name is no longer mine.

Second - Don't tell me that you "hope all is well with you and the kids" because if you truly did, this situation would have resolved itself over 2 years ago.

Third - Don't bother to pray for us. We've got that taken care of by people who are involved in our lives.

Fourth - Don't bother sending a check (made out to me with my former married name on it) so that I could get Daniel "something special" from you. I give him something special every day - love from his family and friends. I don't need your money to do that. I don't need your money at all. I don't want your money.

In fact, I want nothing from you. Nothing at all.

No, let me correct myself there. I want the copy of the trust fund paperwork so that I can get Daniel into these programs. If the trust doesn't exist, then I want documentation from you stating that it doesn't exist.

If it does exist and his name is on it, I want you to remove it. Period. You have proven that you don't care about him. In fact, that's one area where you have gone above and beyond. Remove his name from the trust, make E the sole beneficiary of it, and stay out of our lives.

I'm done. You have had 2 years, 1 month, and 5 days to show that you cared about Daniel. A couple of cards here and there doesn't prove anything.

Please send me the documentation that I need. That is all that I want from you. Ever.

Thank you.



P.S. Glad that you find my blog so interesting - yes, I see you reading it. 40+ posts in one night? Really? Maybe you should have shown that much interest over the past 2 years. Be expecting the card and the check to be returned to you in the mail, along with a copy of this post, in the next few days.