Another question answered....

To continue with the questions that I have been asked so far....

The Dude asked:

Since our relationship started, what has been the most pleasant surprise and what has been the worst?

This was a hard one. But in a good way. So I'm going to answer it directly to him.

The most pleasant surprise has been the way that we have just connected with each other. It happened quickly and easily, and I have never felt more comfortable with anyone than I do with you. I feel like I can tell you anything, and our hours upon hours of conversations about anything, everything, and nothing have proven that. The kids are crazy about you, and I can see the bond growing between you and them every time that you are with them. I feel like our families are just combining into one, and it has been utterly amazing.

Now, the worst surprise....this was harder to figure out in my head, because I honestly couldn't come up with anything that hasn't been positive. Then, my mind went into overdrive and I started to panic because I couldn't come up with anything. So, then I started worrying - what if things are too perfect? Too good to be true? And we've talked about this, so I know that I'm not surprising you at all. But the worst surprise is that things are so good.

I've been telling myself for a long time - for a couple of years, honestly - that I was never going to get into another relationship again. I didn't want the hassle. I didn't want the heartache that I knew would eventually come out of being in one. But with you, I couldn't help myself. We stumbled into this and it has been wonderful and amazing. And I want to keep it that way for a very long time. I'm not afraid of this anymore.

But not being afraid of the whole "relationship thing" has forced me to change my whole way of thinking. I have to realize that I'm not alone in this crazy life that I have anymore. I don't have to do everything on my own. I can ask you for help when I need it. I've been alone for so long that this has been a huge adjustment for me. I joke around about "being old and set in my ways" but it's really true - and now my old and set ways are changing and I'm looking at life differently. I look at the future and I see you in it - and that makes me happier than I've ever been in my life.

Things aren't turning out like I had planned - I was content to be single and alone for the rest of my life, and then you came along and jacked that all up for me. But you know, if that's the worst thing that has happened since our relationship started, I think I can handle that.



(And just to make it clear to everyone, I still have no intentions of getting married again.)