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Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Another question answered....

To continue with the questions that I have been asked so far....

The Dude asked:

Since our relationship started, what has been the most pleasant surprise and what has been the worst?

This was a hard one. But in a good way. So I'm going to answer it directly to him.

The most pleasant surprise has been the way that we have just connected with each other. It happened quickly and easily, and I have never felt more comfortable with anyone than I do with you. I feel like I can tell you anything, and our hours upon hours of conversations about anything, everything, and nothing have proven that. The kids are crazy about you, and I can see the bond growing between you and them every time that you are with them. I feel like our families are just combining into one, and it has been utterly amazing.

Now, the worst surprise....this was harder to figure out in my head, because I honestly couldn't come up with anything that hasn't been positive. Then, my mind went into overdrive and I started to panic because I couldn't come up with anything. So, then I started worrying - what if things are too perfect? Too good to be true? And we've talked about this, so I know that I'm not surprising you at all. But the worst surprise is that things are so good.

I've been telling myself for a long time - for a couple of years, honestly - that I was never going to get into another relationship again. I didn't want the hassle. I didn't want the heartache that I knew would eventually come out of being in one. But with you, I couldn't help myself. We stumbled into this and it has been wonderful and amazing. And I want to keep it that way for a very long time. I'm not afraid of this anymore.

But not being afraid of the whole "relationship thing" has forced me to change my whole way of thinking. I have to realize that I'm not alone in this crazy life that I have anymore. I don't have to do everything on my own. I can ask you for help when I need it. I've been alone for so long that this has been a huge adjustment for me. I joke around about "being old and set in my ways" but it's really true - and now my old and set ways are changing and I'm looking at life differently. I look at the future and I see you in it - and that makes me happier than I've ever been in my life.

Things aren't turning out like I had planned - I was content to be single and alone for the rest of my life, and then you came along and jacked that all up for me. But you know, if that's the worst thing that has happened since our relationship started, I think I can handle that.



(And just to make it clear to everyone, I still have no intentions of getting married again.)

17 comments:

  1. You can't fight fate!! No matter how much you try!!! <3

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    1. Oh, now see? I look at that as a challenge.... ;)

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  2. Ah! So sweet. And mature. Good relationships are such a gift. It takes the bad to really appreciate the good. So happy for you.

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    1. "It takes the bad to really appreciate the good." We have had this exact conversation before - we are glad that it took us this long to get together because otherwise, we wouldn't appreciate each other nearly as much as we do!

      Everything in life happens when it is supposed to happen. We just have to accept that at times.

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  3. Wow.

    On the best thing, they way that you and I... and our families have been able to connect has been nothing less than amazing.
    I'm constantly surprised by how it seems that it's all meshed together.



    On the other end.
    Things have been so good, that they are almost scary. I think I got over that a little faster than you did, accepting it as, I finally found the right one.
    I will continue to do the things I can do to prove to you that I'm here for the long haul, that I'm not going anywhere. I know that things can be hard sometimes, with my neck, with the other responsibilites I have, but we get through each one, with respect, loyalty and plain old stubbornness.

    We both have had to reevaluate our "set ways", we've entered into a whole new paradigm. I'm just glad that you didn't take that profile down when you wanted to!

    (We got all the time in the world to change your mind, right?)

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    1. I'm glad I didn't either! LOL I can't imagine life without you in it right now...and I'm good with that!

      And stop with the mind changing already! :P

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  4. I haven't met either of you, and chatted with miss NSM constantly/occasionally, but I am SO glad she found you Kerry aka The Dude.
    True love.. sometimes it really does take longer than you'd expect to find! And I think you both found it!

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  5. DID YOU SEE THE DAMAGE IN HARVEYVILLE? ARE YOU CLOSE TO TAKE TOWN. IT LOOKS LIKE IT WAS A REAL BAD STORM IN THE NIGHT. THEY SAID MORE STORM TODAY AND TONIGHT. I'VE GOT A COUSIN IN NASHVILLE WHERE MORE STORMS COULD ARE EXPECTED. IT'S ONE REASON I WAS GLAD TO GET OUT OF THE MIDWEST. I GUESS ANY WHERE YOU LIVE STORMS ARE POSSIBLE .STAY SAFE.DO YOU HAVE A STORM CELLAR?

    GRANNY

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    1. I did see the damage - so sad. We got some pretty severe storms last night, but no tornadoes in our immediate area.

      No storm cellar here - I just tell everyone that if the poo hits the fan, look for us in the bathtub!

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  6. Kerry,

    I am directing this at you simply because I can. :P Ames has been one of my bestest friends in the whole wide world for almost 7 years now, and I want to say Thank you. She truly deserves all the happiness that this world has to offer, and I am SO glad that she has you to share life with. There is nothing better than having that special someone to share the day to day crap with, and I'm glad that you have seen through the stuff that is her every day life and see what a truly amazing and wonderful person she is. I've been very blessed to call her my friend, and I'm thrilled that she has found the happiness that she is so deserving of.

    So, again, thank you.

    <3 Jen

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  7. Wrestling analogies never bore me... Amy and I are a tag team. She has her crap I have my crap and we just tag each other in and out to deal with all the crap. ( I should start selling fertilizer.)
    We approach each day as team, what can I do to make her day a little easier, What will she do to brighten mine. It's good and frankly, I'm not nearly good enough for her, but dang it, I'm going to keep trying, keep tagging in!

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  8. I am reminded of the great quote "life is what happens while we make other plans." Thanks for sharing your life with your readers, and Happy Comment Day!

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