tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post8716241998725394308..comments2024-03-01T09:52:27.297-06:00Comments on Non-Stop Mom: Weird placeNon-Stop Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-37501761260685799292011-02-27T15:49:50.593-06:002011-02-27T15:49:50.593-06:00Amy,
I can appreciate what you are going through....Amy,<br /><br />I can appreciate what you are going through. As I may have already told you, my mother chose to not recognize me as her son and therefore not recognize her three grand kids and my at-the-time wife. She chose and that is the "line-in-the-sand" I use as the benchmark for all decisions I make that is in any way related.<br /><br />In the following years, my ex took my kids to see her, against my wishes & behind my back. I have lost contact with siblings, re-established contact & again lost contact with them as a direct result of this action. She has sent me "in-your-face" stuff, sent me old things as gifts, and has lied to the family to make me look like the bad person in all of it, but has never once made an effort to say I'm sorry or to undo what she did.<br /><br />People have told me things that have happened have changed the circumstances, that I should make an effort, that I should put the past behind me and extend an olive branch. That her sending packages in the mail is her making an effort. (even though she has had my phone number but hadn't called or written a letter despite having my address) <br /><br />While I'm only looking out for my best interest & you are looking out for someone else's, I think the commonality in our situation is that we both look back to that line-in-the-sand as our baseline. As long as we don't loose sight of that and nothing significant happens that trumps or moves that line, we can both know we are doing the right thing for the right reason in our given situation. Also, small, insignificant efforts don't trump the initial event. Remember your benchmark & hold fast to that decsion & everything else will be the right thing to do, based on the initial decsion.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00227365497595868267noreply@blogger.com