tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post8361433959697911654..comments2024-03-01T09:52:27.297-06:00Comments on Non-Stop Mom: Listen to the parents - even if they're not yours.Non-Stop Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-55476001733255871262012-08-16T00:41:05.543-05:002012-08-16T00:41:05.543-05:00That is such a great idea! I would love to get to ...That is such a great idea! I would love to get to the point that I could put his child support aside, but right now that's not possible. One of these days....Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-2308163121429196632012-08-16T00:40:22.308-05:002012-08-16T00:40:22.308-05:00I exchanged most everything for stuff that actuall...I exchanged most everything for stuff that actually fit him. I'll only use the money on him though - I won't put it toward the van. I can't really, even if I wanted to, because it had to go on a gift card.Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-34801861912705802662012-08-16T00:39:37.143-05:002012-08-16T00:39:37.143-05:00I returned it, and what I didn't use went on a...I returned it, and what I didn't use went on a gift card that I will probably use to buy him shoes.<br /><br />As far as his father buying him stuff, it's usually special occasions. School, Christmas, whatever. Or whenever he doesn't like what he's wearing, because we have very different tastes - I don't buy designer stuff - he does. He can keep wasting his money as far as I'm concerned.Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-59641739945345795002012-08-16T00:38:03.716-05:002012-08-16T00:38:03.716-05:00Ha. I ended up taking most of it back and getting ...Ha. I ended up taking most of it back and getting stuff that actually fit him, and then the rest of the money went on a gift card since I of course didn't have the receipts. I'll probably use that to get him a new pair of sneakers. You know, in my spare time.Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-32929121035372504242012-08-16T00:36:48.730-05:002012-08-16T00:36:48.730-05:00ROFLMAO!!!! Awesome! I love the way that you think...ROFLMAO!!!! Awesome! I love the way that you think!Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-46005286621413657792012-08-16T00:36:31.138-05:002012-08-16T00:36:31.138-05:00I use the backpacks until they are in SHREDS. I ju...I use the backpacks until they are in SHREDS. I just refuse to keep spending money on stuff that they don't need.Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-36261371728968229152012-08-16T00:35:51.570-05:002012-08-16T00:35:51.570-05:00So glad that I'm not the only one!So glad that I'm not the only one!Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-29240198887748359932012-08-16T00:35:14.060-05:002012-08-16T00:35:14.060-05:00Ugh. Isn't that annoying? And as cute as some ...Ugh. Isn't that annoying? And as cute as some of that stuff is, it's just not practical. Now, if she had bought the coat in addition to the stuff that you asked for, that would be a different story altogether.Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-17402027306716943182012-08-13T21:00:32.697-05:002012-08-13T21:00:32.697-05:00My ex used to do that for my oldest, he'd buy ...My ex used to do that for my oldest, he'd buy for her but I have a younger son too so when he'd buy her 400 dollars worth of toys when she didnt have clothes that fit and my son got nothing it was frustrating and made me really mad. I get child support through the state so as long as she's not lacking in anything all of it gets put into her savings account. I don't spend it and she can earn bits of it back through chores as she gets older etc. and whatever she gets in support I try to put equal into an account for my son. They are equals in spite of having different fathers, being different genders, having different grandparents, etcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-69497843525620782332012-08-13T10:20:29.938-05:002012-08-13T10:20:29.938-05:00GRANNY HERE. A TEAR FELL.I ALWAY GIVE MONEY. THIS ...GRANNY HERE. A TEAR FELL.I ALWAY GIVE MONEY. THIS WAY THEY CAN GET WHAT THEY WANT. MOTHERS AND SIL ARE ALWAY HAPPY THAT I EVEN THOUGHT TO GIVE THEM SOMETHING. I AGREE, JUST TAKE THE STUFF BACK TO THE STORE AND DONATE TO YOUR CAR PROBLEM. THAT A NEED.IT'LL GET HIM TO SCHOOL.PROBLEM SOLVED GRANNY STYLE.<br /><br />GRANNYAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-69295436958016843562012-08-13T08:52:56.837-05:002012-08-13T08:52:56.837-05:00If you know where it came from return it and get m...If you know where it came from return it and get more undies. I don't think that is unethical as long as every penny they spent gets put back toward the kid they intended it for. Maybe a ton of underwear and socks and two new outfits so he feels good on his first day. <br /><br />I have had similar issues with my xMIL, but finally have her cash giving mostly under control. I make the boys do work for money so they can appreciate the value of money. Also, I make them save up for something if they want it and she was damaging my work by handing them money every time they would see her. I don't mean a dollar either, but $20. She will blow money on them and never offer to get them a new outfit or anything for school. My parents are amazing because they dealt with a bad grandma with my sister. <br /><br />I doubt Alex's dad is involved enough to even take the time to teach him anything. How often does he actually buy the child anything anyway? Shanna Watkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00425627820866508979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-48592935875130570702012-08-13T04:59:39.466-05:002012-08-13T04:59:39.466-05:00], myself, had this talk with my MIL. My mom gets ...], myself, had this talk with my MIL. My mom gets it. Because when I was a kid, she would ask her parents specifically to get me clothes, new shoes, undies. I used to get so mad as a kid that my grandma never did what the other grandparents did and spoiled me rotten. Then I got older and realized. My grandparents are why I had new clothes, and I truly appreciated my mom standing her ground. She would go so far as to take it back to them. She would say, look, I told you she needs Blah. Please take this back, while I appreciate the gesture, we do not need it, she has not earned it, etc. I do the same thing with my son. I told my MIL he needs clothes. Underwear. Socks. ALWAYS. I get 99 percent of his clothes hand me down, so for him, a new outfit is like the coolest thing ever. I would tell his grandmother flat out. Look, the kid will appreciate new undies. Please take the backpack and use the money for... (insert something here)... or take it all back and use the money towards the transmission. LOL! <3 Mom TMom-Troversialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06753967023957237378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-10831150857901191602012-08-12T23:58:30.222-05:002012-08-12T23:58:30.222-05:00You know what would be fun?
To take the giant cl...You know what would be fun? <br /><br />To take the giant clothes that will never fit, stuff them in the un-needed back pack, and cram it right up his...........oops.....family friendly........<br /><br />These are the reasons why they are exes. The morons. Wendihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09906686375065167710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-65992392302538389672012-08-12T23:49:04.026-05:002012-08-12T23:49:04.026-05:00I feel ya! Don't even get me started! My in la...I feel ya! Don't even get me started! My in laws do the same annoying crap! It's nice to see another mom who uses backpacks until they are done! I don't get new ones every year either. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08837162911344469993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-76552736508768409752012-08-12T22:43:59.244-05:002012-08-12T22:43:59.244-05:00I don't think you're over reacting at all....I don't think you're over reacting at all. I've told my kids grandparents that they don't need all the toys and to be taken out to dinner at Appleby's every week. What they need is socks and underwear. Occasionally some new clothes, but not that often. I know thy think they're being helpful by spending money on the kids, but at least get them something they NEED. Honestly, I'm not that bad off that I can't afford the basic necessities, but if they insist on getting stuff for the kids, fine. Just get the things I ask. That way I don't have to take the crap back and get what they need, and in the process end up looking like the 'bad guy' who won't let them have all the fun stuff. *sigh* <br /><br />I'm right there with ya.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16426724012355145075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7758570882310139920.post-65380633774014016852012-08-12T22:41:58.559-05:002012-08-12T22:41:58.559-05:00When I had my first daughter a few weeks before Ch...When I had my first daughter a few weeks before Christmas, my mother in law asked me what she NEEDED. My husband was in construction and it was very slow with work and our finances were not the greatest in the winters... I told her onesies and receiving blankets and a few pairs of socks- she bought her a PINK FUR coat. Gee thank you, I am sure at 6 weeks old and barely 7 pounds, in a Chicago winter this will be exactly what she needs. I understand that she wanted to spoil her, but DO NOT ASK what is needed and then do the opposite. I had even specifically told other people not to get those items because I had told her too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com